“Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfillment.” — Tony Robbins
With my last blog, I sensed there was a misplaced perception.
Asking about a situation does create some distance and does allow us to bring more of who we are into a situation. That’s what the Parsifal myth is about — looking beyond the obvious requirements — asking the harder questions about why we are doing what we choose to do. It is also about being foolish enough to bring all of our interests in no matter how irrelevant or unnecessary. Choosing to wake-up is a choice look at whatever is missing from our behavior.
And the misplaced perception, which I’m worried about, is that by “being asleep,” you might infer that sleeping people are somehow not actively engaged. On the contrary, sometimes we are the most asleep when we are seemingly our busiest and most active.
What’s important to remember about the Parsifal myth is that the dilemma that we face is the “autopilot reaction” of never questioning what it is we are doing, never questioning if the desired solution really matters to us, and has an impact beyond our more limited interests.
I’ve titled this blog “accountability as a new perspective” not only to look at how curiosity addresses our the “bigger game” — by asking us to look beyond our assumptions — I’m also trying to see if we can look past many of our fears and anxieties.
One of our biggest autopilot reactions is failing to make full use of our four endowments: creative imagination, independent will, conscience, and self-awareness. Look at the various assumptions that block our ability to make full use of what we already have simply because we are human:
- “There is nothing I can add.” “Everything is already planned out.”
— failure of imagination
- “This impact won’t really impact others.” “This is not important.”
— failure of conscience
- “If they don’t notice, why should I?” “Whose going to hold me accountable?” — failure of self-awareness
- “Just get it over with.” “It’s not my call.”
— failure of Independent will
The anxiety and fear that undermines our endowments make it twice as hard to enter curiosity. Our human endowments really only work in OUR favor when we gain some distance on any insecurities that are pushing us away from our best selves.
So don’t just assume that the “well-cared-for” sleep applies when we are feeling comfortable. It might be a slightly different kind of sleep, but feeling stressed, pushed, and anxious also make it difficult to bring our fullest selves to the table.
It sometimes takes a lot to get out of our own way. But the reward is worth it. As Tony Robbins points out sincere and selfless contribution yields our deepest joy: true fulfillment.
Thanks for listening!