Category Archives: Powerful Questions

…series conclusion…clarification dilemmas…

I’m going to wrap up this series on clarifiers, but before I do, I want to see if I can assign specific “root” images to each clarification dilemma covered.  

Go back to initiating post (…clarifiers…unique areas of judgment…).  

Remember, situations prompt us to step into the unknown when our judgment becomes clouded.  By attempting to clarify how the “unknown” appears to us, we get a better handle on what, for us, makes sense right now.  

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…opportunity or possibility…

“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.” — Charles R. Swindoll

What makes an opportunity seem irresistible?  Timing, people, difficulty, resources, perks, expectations?  Or is it simply the anticipated impact of what might come out of it?  A potential raise, a promotion, the honor, or just the satisfaction of doing a good job?  While there are many aspects that go into “sizing up” an opportunity, we often get caught up with trying to solve the “possibility” puzzle.  Is this going to happen or not? We want to calculate the odds and run the math to see if the Vision of the Opportunity bears any relation to the Vision of the Possibility.

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…addressed or avoided…

“If you want to get something done, do it yourself.” — Anonymous 
In the realm of life lessons, I have avoided plenty of things that were asked of me.  It’s not always pretty.  And as tempting as it might be to “take-on-the-world,” we all have our limits. 
So before you commit, ask yourself:  “Is this something you want to fix (and address) or avoid (and leave alone)?”  Just taking that one step goes a long way.

…urgent or important…

“Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.” Jim Rohn
In the realm of life lessons,  we’ve all had at least a few experiences of being over or under committed.  We’re all a bit like Goldilocks here – trying to get our work levels “just right” and the task doesn’t taste anything like porridge.

One common strategy to use is to get a “read” on an issue – just to “figure out” how to proceed.  Most people start with the obvious.  “Is this urgent?” and if not, then “How important?”

…desire or cultivated restraint…

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” — Napoleon Hill

We can fool ourselves with our desire.  Sometimes our desire is hot, fully-charged, and deeply-engaged.  Part of us is simply oozing to make our move and see what happens.  At other times, our desire is more restrained.  More cultivated.  We keep it at arm’s length.  With this style of desire, there is a tendency to play the ‘mighta-woulda-coulda’ game.  We’re just not all that committed — so we don’t really follow through.   We put ourselves in the way by never showing up.  Ironic right?

So, here’s a joke:  A boy asks: “Are you sure that you only love me?” The girl replies: “Ya. I checked that list just yesterday.”

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…your words or someone else’s…

“Don’t repeat anything you wouldn’t sign your name to.” – Author Unknown
We all get caught up in gossip.  Sometimes it is just too tempting to keep the story going, so we add our voice to the mix – and in so doing, we put our credibility on the line.  Today’s clarifier asks us to look at why we become invested in perspectives that are not our own.  Answer:  because we like to be seen as “joining” – even if we drop out.
Here’s a joke:  “An amnesiac walks into a bar. The bartender asks, “What can I get you today?” The amnesiac says, “I don’t know, I have trouble remembering things.” The bartender says, “Like what?….”

…open or resistant…

“Commitment is the enemy of resistance, for it is the serious promise to press on, to get up, no matter how many times you are knocked down.” — David McNally

In the realm of life lessons, we all have experiences where something was asked of us and we find ourselves either open or resistant to doing it.  Sometimes we run headlong, eager to take up the challenge.  Other times we dig in our heals and resist for no particular reason.  

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